Can a dream really change your life?

When you tell acquaintances and strangers that you write and teach about dreams an interesting thing happens – the polite, interested look disappears, their faces light up and they straight away tell you about a dream they’ve had…

This is the first sentence of Writing in the House of Dreams and I wanted to tell you about recent example, when a complete stranger told me this story.

He said that as a young man in his teens he had experienced intense suicidal feelings, and he happened to be going out with a girl who felt the same way.

They talked very seriously about suicide and he was in no doubt that they would indeed end up killing themselves.

Then one night he dreamt they were waiting for the last bus near a roundabout on the edge of town, after an evening out. Everything looked orange under the street lights and there was no-one else around.

When the bus finally arrived, the dreamer saw through the windows that all the passengers were skeletons.

‘Don’t get on the bus!’ he said, grabbing his girlfriend’s arm. ‘We don’t want to get on that bus!’

When he woke up, he thought the dream had been about her, and that he should tell her not to think about killing herself any more, but then he realised it was actually about both of them.

He thought, ‘If we’re not getting on that bus, we need to think of good reasons for living. We need to find out what we want to live for.’

From that day, the dreamer stopped obsessing about suicide and started to live purposefully, and at times in later life when things felt hard, he remembered that dream, and stayed off the bus.

As I write this, I’m struck by the curious fact that decades after the dreamer had this dream, there’s now a website for people considering suicide that uses the term ‘catching the bus’ to mean killing yourself.

I’ve heard lots of stories about people who have had a life-changing dream at a time of crisis, like this man, but sometimes a not-at-all epic-seeming dream can change the way we see the day-to-day things we’re going through, and help us over a hurdle.

For example, I had a dream that coloured balls were pouring from the sky as if someone was emptying a giant ball-pool. They were bouncing off the ground and landing all over everything.

I thought, ‘This isn’t right! The balls all belong in one place. They should all be landing in one box.’ When I woke, I knew it was about a situation that had been making me feel annoyed (it was ‘a load of balls’) and realised I had been  judging everyone according to one person’s behaviour.

That dream didn’t change my whole life forever, but it did change the way I was handling a passing situation. Big changes, little changes – dreams can provide an opportunity to consider things from a different angle when our conscious mind is going round and round, stuck in the same groove.

There’s another great story of a life-changing dream on Tzivia Gover’s blog 

Have you had a life-changing dream, or has someone else told you about theirs?

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8 thoughts on “Can a dream really change your life?”

    1. Hi Yvonne – I hadn’t thought how it might be for an occasional recaller, and I guess you would take notice! The book I’m about to start writing also comes from a dream. It’s a wonderful feeling of connection with the inner world, isn’t it?

  1. Great post. Yes, dreams have changed my life in big and small ways. I often choose my day’s outfit based on a dream, and many shopping decisions from home decor — to homes — have come from dreams. I find when I follow my night time dreams, my day time dream become supercharged!

  2. What a story, Jenny! That’s going to stay with me. I’ve had dreams of being trapped that made me turn down opportunities, and fearful dreams that actually made me press forward with others. For me it’s less the details of the dreams that matter, and more the feeling it leaves me with, and how that resonates with me once I’m awake. My dreams often reveal my hidden feelings (or hidden depths of feeling), and then I get to decide how to act on them.

  3. Hidden feelings and hidden depths of feeling – yes, I hadn’t thought of it in these terms. Sometimes dreams don’t only show you what you feel, but also how much you’re feeling it. Thank you, Amy 🙂

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